Making shift happen…

You know what the secret is to making big changes in your life?

Not doing it for a specific outcome.

Every time you decide to do something to get a “result” you’re sort of missing the point.

And probably also overwhelming yourself as well-creating a huge expectation of what your changed behavior is going to accomplish for you.

Which in turn makes it really tough to stick with whatever it is that you’re trying to change as the energies of “how will I ever stay with this for long enough to accomplish my goal” sweep through you and self-sabotage starts creeping in.

Because the truth is that abstaining doesn’t really work. At least not when it’s done for the wrong reasons. When we limit and restrict ourselves out of a desire to be “good” (with food, with relationships, with substances) it creates a “purity” mentality that is very, very hard to live up to.

Because we aren’t pure.

We’re human-which is really so much better.

We are the mud AND the lotus.

The shit and the flower.

And the simplest way to embody this is to take the word “should”” out of your vocabulary.

Stop doing things because you “should” and start doing them because it’s nourishing.

When you shift your focus from results to nourishment thoughts like:

“I should work out today because I need to lose 5 pounds to fit a cultural stereotype of what beauty looks like”

Become

“I’m choosing to move my body today because it makes me feel alive and well to feel my blood pumping through my veins and then I feel less stressed as I go about my daily tasks.”

And you know what? You just might end up losing 5 pounds in the process.

But more importantly you will enjoy the process of relating to your life experience.

Let it be simple, even if it is not easy.

Allow yourself to practice this mental shift by asking yourself the question,

“What would bring me the most nourishment/fulfillment in this moment”.

The answer to this question may be radically different from what you have been doing-or it may not be all that different from the choice you would have made if you were doing it for a “result”.

But it will be easier for you to do-and to stick with-because it won’t be an ultimatum you’ve taken on for somebody else’s idea of what your life “should” look like.

It will be because it is what is most nourishing for you in this moment.

Happy Experimenting!